I can’t edit on mobile so I just deleted the posts that had my mistakes in them, and I apologize for my wording and attitude coming off as rude. I didn’t intend to upset anyone.

I’ll try to update later, I’m in some rough stuff right now at home so tumblr is not on the front burner but I will try to keep this blog as active as possible.

Anonymous said: The idea that words should always mean what their roots suggest is called an "etymological fallacy" in formal logic terms. The word "bisexual" was created by a straight sexologist in the late 1800's before the idea that gender is not binary was credible, and that gives it a lot of time to have changed its meaning and implications. Saying "bi means two so bisexual means only two sexes" is just as incorrect as saying "pineapple is pine + apple and is therefore an apple that grows on a pine tree."

I wasn’t gonna post on this subject anymore but this was pretty excellent thank you

Anonymous said: Actually, bisexuality is the attraction to your own gender and other gender/s, the bi meaning the two different attractions (your own gender and others), so basically attraction to two /or more/, while pansexuality is more specific, attraction to all genders. I'm attracted to all genders, but identify as bisexual.

hmm I’ve never heard that one

thanks!

Anonymous said: How do you know if you're bigender vs genderfluid? Some days I feel female, some days I feel male, some days I feel both, but most days I don't feel either.

I think bigender usually means identifying as two (specific? not sure) genders at all times, or possibly fluctuating, whereas genderfluid would be more like a constant-ish change of gender, kinda like a river flow? 

Keep in mind, I’m agender, so I’m not the authority on this point.

Anonymous said: I have no idea what the acronyms I sometimes see mean... Like AFAB... Would you mind explaining the acronyms? Thank you, sorry.

AFAB/AMAB and variations of those mean ‘assigned female/male at birth’ so basically if you were born with a vagina the doctor was like it’s a girl! But then you grew up and identified as not a girl but your body was assigned female, ya dig? 
Any other acronyms specifically?

1070)

(you can credit me on this one)

So, I was in a convenience store I haven’t been to in a while, and the counter guy said “Whoa, you look… I’m not sure if you’re supposed to be a boy or a girl.”


MISSION FUCKING ACCOMPLISHED. Thanks for validating my identity, dude; “Not supposed to be a boy or a girl” is exactly what I’m trying to present. He seemed pretty uncomfortable, so I joked around with him and tried to get him laughing. I guess I’ll just have to get used to this sort of thing. I have the heart of a thousand warriors, and the mind of a Looney Tunes character.

I don’t give two sweet fucks what strangers think of me. But I still can’t help but obsess over what my very supportive and accepting cis-friends “might really think of me”, and I feel like all my insides are going to fall right out of me. Even though my friends are amazing super human beings. My brain is a big stupid sometimes gaaahhh. 

1069) I’m DFAB, and I question my gender often. I’m autistic, which has the “extreme male brain” stereotype. I can’t honestly tell if I’m actually non-binary or if I’m just a cis girl with internalized ableism. Until I find out for sure, I’m just going to tell people I’m female so I don’t appropriate actual non-binary people.

1068) A while ago someone I barely knew messaged me on Facebook seeking casual sex. His excuse was that he’d always wanted to ‘touch penises’ with a trans woman. The complete and utter WRONGNESS of this aside, I’m not a trans woman. ‘Sorry if you see yourself as a male sexually, because I don’t see you that way,’ he said. I’m CAFAB, male presenting, and have been on hormones for several years, so this was more of a punch in the face than a slap. When I complained about this disgusting disregard of boundaries/human decency to my roommate she told me my gender ‘doesn’t exist outside of the queer parties you go to,’ and that furthermore ‘anyone who puts on makeup and a dress wants to be a woman, so what do you expect?’ Up until this moment I had felt great and fine, and completely validated gender-wise by everyone around me. I hadn’t been dysphoric since I was a kid, and now I’ve got someone telling me how to perform gender. How I dress is my business, not anyone else’s, and it isn’t my fault that shitty people (like YOU) exist!

1067) I have curves. Obvious curves. Big hips. “Junk in the trunk”. Breasts. Pitiful breasts but they’re there. An unmistakable feminine body structure. But when I look into the mirror every morning, I ask… “How? How the fuck do they see a girl?”

dargo-bloodyfist:

What term would be better? I have heard many objections to the use of the term, but no one has ever explained to me why it’s not good or what to use in its place. 

Personally, I use it as a very base definition of “this person has a penis” or “this person has a vagina” to differentiate when we are talking purely about biology. I don’t mean it to be anything more than a way to differentiate different body types when talking about stuff that is related to different organs. Obviously someone with a penis is less likely to have a menstrual cycle than a person with a vagina, etc. etc., and that’s all I mean it to be, and I believe that is what this person meant in their original question.

Is there a different term that people prefer? If so, please let me know. I dont want to make anyone upset.

Meant to post this over here earlier, my bad

dargo-bloodyfist:

What term would be better? I have heard many objections to the use of the term, but no one has ever explained to me why it’s not good or what to use in its place.

Personally, I use it as a very base definition of “this person has a penis” or “this person has a vagina” to differentiate when we are talking purely about biology. I don’t mean it to be anything more than a way to differentiate different body types when talking about stuff that is related to different organs. Obviously someone with a penis is less likely to have a menstrual cycle than a person with a vagina, etc. etc., and that’s all I mean it to be, and I believe that is what this person meant in their original question.

Is there a different term that people prefer? If so, please let me know. I dont want to make anyone upset.

Meant to post this over here earlier, my bad

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