1058) Today I pinned a men’s suit to my style board on Pinterest. I know this doesn’t sound like anything special, but I’m a female who’s been struggling with her gender identity for a while now. I haven’t told anyone what I’ve been feeling. It’s doubtful anyone will call me out on it, but it was still a big deal for me. I think I want to stay with my female pronouns and am fine with appearing female, but sometimes I want to dress like a man because, well, sometimes I feel like one. It’s scary, and I’m scared as hell, but I’m trying to be true to myself. And if pinning men’s fashion on Pinterest makes me feel closer to who I am, then I’m going to do it, dammit.
1057) I want to slap people who dare use the term ‘tranny chaser’ or get offended when someone prefers transexuals or non-binary folks. Reason why it hurts me is because I am genderqueer and prefer non-cis people because there is a level of understanding that I feel I can’t get with them. All of my cisrelationships no matter how kind the man or woman was I always felt so violated physically or by their unintended treatment of me. So please don’t demonize someone instantly saying ‘They are fetishists’.
opossumoppreciationsquad asked: Hi Cris! I've been out as GQ for ~year, and I'm getting to the point where I feel compelled to go back to using she/her (I use they/them). I'm constantly misgendered by my friends (or they don't use pronouns when talking about me/make it clear that my gender's a burden). My parents didn't cut ties but they purposely misgender me, and I'm at the point where my gender is MINE. I risked my family to come out, I know who I am, but the thought of using she/her again makes me feel guilty. Help please?
Oh, honeydoll, I’m so sorry :( that’s literally the worst situation, I’m sorry you have to go through that -hugs u-
My advice is to keep on pushing for people to use the correct pronouns with you. Your parents may be harder because parents are stubborn like that, but at least with your friends, be forceful, especially if they act like that about it. Or maybe even try giving them a taste of how it feels for you. Avoid pronouns, roll your eyes if you misgender them and they correct you. Maybe that’s kind of mean, actually, might be a bad idea… but then, I dunno. Hmm. You’re in quite a sucky predicament, my friend.
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