GenderQueer Confessions

Jun 01

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Anonymous asked: I started reading through this blog, because as someone who's cisgender I feel a responsibility to learn as much as I can so I can better support my trans* and genderqueer friends. And I want to hug and kiss every confessor on here and you that you're all beautiful and wonderful no matter what ♥

faj;iesl fi YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL TOO ANON

Anonymous asked: Not really a confession, more like a question for y'all: From what I see, a great majority genderqueer people prefer gender neutral and/or male pronouns to refer to them... what is wrong with female pronouns? Is there a reason so few genderqueer people don't mind them?

To me, it feels like there’s a considerably larger amount of FAAB queers who don’t like using female pronouns than MAAB queers who don’t like male pronouns. It’s always struck me like that, but there could be more reasons….. Does anyone else have any ideas as to why female pronouns are so unloved in the queer community?

May 31

412) I’m genderless but I use female pronouns because it’s what I grew up with. However, I’d rather be thought of as a gentleman than a lady. Am I just trying to have my cake and eat it too?

411) I come off as a dumb cis ally in real life. I’m not cis, I’m just dumb. Sorry.

410) I feel guilty whenever I bind or feel dysphoric about my breasts, because they aren’t even an A-cup, and other people have to deal with much worse.

409) I was CAFAB. I identify as genderqueer. My “secret”? I wish I had been assigned male at birth, yet still be genderqueer. I wish I had been born with a penis, “male” body, etc., but still dress how I do now. And that includes lacy panties, heels, skirts.

May 29

408) I feel like all the other genderqueer people I find online are biologically female, and they all have dysphoria or some sort of feelings about their breasts. Having been born male, I always end up feeling left out.

407) Shopping for clothes makes me feel horribly dysphoric. I don’t feel like I belong in the women’s section, but the men’s section is so intimidating; it just reminds me that I’ll never really look like any of their models. Besides that, I feel like people are side-eyeing me no matter which side of the store I’m on. By society’s standards, I don’t belong anywhere.

406) Everyone talks about “feeling” male or female but I’m not even sure what that is…? I’m fine with being referred to as female, I’ve grown up with those pronouns, but every one I read about or hear talking references these feelings of one gender or another or no gender at all and I’m just like “I’m me?” I don’t even know what to call it and its really very upsetting when friends are exchanging their labels and I have nothing to offer.